Blessed Are The Disillusioned

They are called by different names. David Kinnaman calls them nomads, prodigals, or exiles, depending on their particular flavor. Josh Packard calls them church refugees. Other researchers speak of the de-churched. What they share is a disillusionment with the popular, institutional forms of Christianity. They feel unrepresented by those speaking in Christ’s name in the media, and they carry distrust toward many of the organizations that claim to advance his mission. Not all of the disillusioned have abandoned Christian faith, although that is also happening, but they are searching for a place to belong.

When I meet people who express these qualities, I am probably guilty of projecting my own disillusionment onto them. I think about my own history of institutional frustration. I recall how members of my family have endured racism by Christian organizations, and how the impact of those experiences have negatively influenced generations. I think about how often I have seen godly, well-meaning people restrained by policies, bureaucracies, budgets, or attorneys. I think about Christian ministries making decisions driven by the shadow mission of survival rather than the kingdom mission of God. And about how desperately we need leaders and institutions that will empower a new generation of Christians, but how difficult that is when the funding comes primarily from a generation with different values.

I know I am not alone. I meet more like me every week. Some are young and idealistic, but a surprising number are older. They’ve spent decades in ministry and in the guts of institutional Christianity. I get emails and social media messages almost daily from frustrated pastors or struggling students. The tribe of the disillusioned is growing and the institutional containers we have inherited are struggling to hold us. The cracks are spreading. The containers are leaking. But we stay, for now, because we don’t know where to go. We don’t know who to follow. We don’t know where we belong.

The disillusioned wonder—where are the voices that affirm traditional Christian marriage without condemning our neighbors who do not?

The disillusioned wonder—where are the churches that focus more on loving people in the name of God than using people in the name of mission?

The disillusioned wonder—where are the humble Christians that can discern the difference between a loss of privilege and real persecution?

The disillusioned wonder—where are the leaders who show as much courage admitting the truth as they do defending the truth?

The disillusioned wonder—where are the politicians committed as much to the religious liberty of Muslim-Americans as they are to the religious liberty of their evangelical voters?

The disillusioned wonder—where are the women and men of Christ who celebrate all that is true, and good, and beautiful in the culture and not just what is “safe” within the Christian subculture?

The disillusioned wonder—where are Christian voices in the media calling for the defense of black lives after they are born and not just before?

The disillusioned wonder—where are the pastors willing to preach more than an individualized faith and who are willing to hold a Bible in one hand and a newspaper in the other?

The disillusioned wonder—where are the prophetic voices in the church that fear God more than they fear the voices on cable news or talk radio?

The disillusioned wonder—where are the Christian leaders who are more focused on faithfulness to their calling than the perpetuity of their institutions?

The disillusioned wonder—where do we go? Who will speak for us?

I know there are good, godly people and organizations that defy the trend, but they lack the critical mass to coalesce into a sustainable identity that offers an identifiable alternative to the ailing evangelicalism we now know. They don’t have the gravitational force to draw the disillusioned together into a new community with a new voice. Without a home and without a voice, the disillusioned Christian faces two temptations.

The first temptation is assimilation. We are tempted to abandon the forms and structures of our faith to assimilate into the broader culture. We recede into the background becoming crypto-Christians holding to a private faith that no one can see, or we abandon what is truly Christian about our faith to join the masses flocking to jellyfish spirituality with no moral or doctrinal backbone. This is jumping from the frying pan into the fire.

The second temptation is anger. We are tempted to lash out at a system that has failed us. We saw an example of this in the last presidential campaign. Donald Trump and Bernie Sanders both appealed to the disillusioned—those who felt the system had failed them and does not represent them. The zealotry birthed by the two political parties is also gestating within American Christianity. If disillusioned Christians succumb to the temptation of zealotry, we will foolishly turn to angry messiahs and impotent gestures of rebellion for hope.

Assimilation and anger are not paths to the kingdom of God.

What are the disillusioned to do? Jesus said, “Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the land.” The land, which was all-important to the wellbeing and identity of God’s people at the time, was occupied by the Romans. This humiliating state of affairs led some to despair. They capitulated to Roman occupation; some even joining forces with their pagan overlords. Other became Zealots—armed terrorists who fought the Romans. Jesus affirmed neither of these responses. Instead, he blessed the meek as the rightful heirs of the land.

The meek did not despair and throw in the towel, neither did they trust in power and take up the sword. Instead, as Scot McKnight describes it, “The meek choose to absorb unjust conditions in a form of nonviolent, nonretaliatory resistance that creates a calm, countercultural community of love, justice, and peace.” They stand on the promise of Psalm 37:11, “The meek will inherit the land and enjoy peace and prosperity.” In other words, the meek trust God even as they cry out, “How long, O Lord?”

As we watch the inadequacies of the contemporary church in America multiply, as we see the institutions we’ve inherited stumble and fail, and as we wander in the wilderness looking for a place to pitch our tents—we disillusioned must not give into despair nor fall for the empty rhetoric of zealots. We must watch for and resist the temptations of assimilation and anger. Instead, let’s trust in God even as we pray, “How long, O Lord?”

To my disillusioned friends at Christian colleges, and the disillusioned pastors around the country, and the disillusioned Christians who write to me every week—do not lose heart. Blessed are the disillusioned, for they will inherit the land.



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  • February 12, 2016

    Britt Newman

    This makes me cry: cry that this is so very true for so many, and cry because I am among the deeply disillusioned and hanging on to church and to faith my by fingernails and by the grace of God. I believe God is allowing a shift to take place in this country to force us to really look at our faith and our claim to follow Jesus. Privelege has a very dark side.

  • February 12, 2016

    Dan Wisley

    Thought provoking. Is this different from the very old excuse for avoiding church involvement, “There are too many hypocrites there”? The Church has always been broken and always will be. Is it more broken now? Are the disillusioned more insightful and godly or more judgmental and arrogant to think they would do so much better? Is it honest longing for true community or “slacktivism” that compels people to leave? Maybe some of each? Moral superiority mixed with genuine insights? These are my honest questions.
    I appreciate your warnings about the two temptations and the call to humility. The Gen iY book I’m reading says this group needs instant gratification and entertainment, has an inflated view of themselves and lacks perseverance. The author calls them to more patience, endurance and empathy.
    There are times when the right response is to leave and start something new and times when we must stay involved to bring change from the inside.

  • February 12, 2016

    Steve Randle

    I am a pastor who is among the disillusioned. I am not officially pastoring at present, but am going to church and contiung to pray for guidance, and God is starting to give direction. This is not about hypocrites in the church, or those looking for excuses to leave. It is about churches that have an ingrown culture that ignores the epic of God’s gospel message; and a culture that is promoted by immature leadership in the corporate church. I have heard many people (including leaders) say things like “I am not called to reach out to ‘those people’”, meaning the hurting and lost, or “I don’t have gifts in that area.” Do we or do we not have the ministry of reconciliation? Has God stopped providing when we step out to serve Him? I think that we are plagued with the church in Ephesus in our country right now. I have decided that the answer for me is not to leave the church, but to stay and serve God the way He wants me to serve, by discipling and loving others the way that Jesus would. God placed on my heart that those who refuse to reach out are suffering from spiritual immaturity, and need someone to love them and disciple them by showing them how to follow Jesus as an overcomer, not by living the American dream, but the Jesus dream.

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  • February 21, 2016

    Richard Vander Zwaag

    In my formative adult years I was very influenced by Keith Green and his music . He was very much disillusioned with the church of his day as was I . I left a conservative Reformed denomination for a Vineyard Church . It seemed so fresh and alive , bucking the rigidness of the “established church ” . I went to several types of churches after that in the last 25 years . From mega church to store front , I find people are people and a remnant of the “meek” are there in all I attended . Sometimes I think we Christians always get it wrong when dealing with the lost , the disillusioned , the marginalized . By His grace and the power of the Holy Spirit , God is calling to himself a peculiar people .

  • February 24, 2016

    Ed Taylor

    This is so true, and we are trying to be one of those churches. But what we’re having trouble with is finding the folks who are disillusioned. Unfortunately. There’s no coffee shop where they all hang out.

    Just seems like everyone is still getting syphoned off to the easy megachurches in the area. High quality. Low expectations. So we continue to struggle with our little band of rebels, wondering, “Where my peeps at?”

    • April 5, 2017

      Adam Tauno Williams

      If it is any encouragement I think one of the major issues in your “finding the folks who are disillusioned” is just one of Density. America is radically dispersed; this means creating community is very hard, we have physically built a nation non-conducive to community formation.

      > There’s no coffee shop where they all hang out.

      No, there is ONE in every coffee shop. 🙂 🙁 He or she is probably reading a BLOG post like this on their phone wondering “Where my peeps at?”. The answer is a sad ‘everywhere and nowhere’.

  • April 3, 2017


    100% agree. The corporatized feeling of these franchised multi-campus churches makes it feel as though you are an experiment in someone’s business and marketing class vs. a thriving body of Christian believers. Honestly, I don’t care so much about the quality of the music, the charisma of the preacher, nor the design of the worship space. The constant focus on these things by many has left a hollow hole in my spirit.

    Jesus was “meek and lowly of heart,” but many of these ministries are always touting their successes and how many they “reach” each Sunday. I can’t take it anymore. I would rather sit in a circle with an acoustic guitar and bibles, a desire to meet with Christ and show Him to others than ever venture into one of those ministries again.

    We are joining with a small group of believers that is seeking to set up some kind of ministry that creates a non-profit/business to give jobs to locals in the community (say a coffee shop) that doubles as a worship space and a community center. Hopefully, this would become a self-sustaining venture that would free up finances to help the poor and needy.

  • April 3, 2017

    Daniel Geaslen

    Thanks Skye, as a full time missionary I see the exact same disillusionment on the mission field with coworkers and myself. Some would want to pin the disillusionment on generational lines, but that’s simply not true. The older generations had those who were disillusioned, and they left the mission field. As a borderline millennial, I see my l myself agreeing on different subjects with both sides of the rapidly growing generational divide. It breaks my heart to see a coming crisis in missions as groups like my mission face losing over half their staff in 5-10 years for to retirement, but seem unable to recruit and keep new people. I seriously doubt this is caused by a lack of vision for missions in millennials, but a lack of commitment to an organization. Instead millenials are committed to their faith and their God, but will drop the organization if it gets in the way. Essentially, millennials are willing to bail much faster when they become disillusioned. This message is excellent and timely for me and I’m sure for many. ‘We must watch for and resist the temptations of assimilation and anger. Instead, let’s trust in God even as we pray, “How long, O Lord?”’

    How long, O Lord?!

    • April 7, 2017

      Adam Tauno Williams

      “””Essentially, millennials are willing to bail much faster when they become disillusioned”””

      How much of that is financial? Millennials are a financially stressed group in a rapidly evolving economy. How are the organizations that desire their loyalty addressing or even talking about that?

      Previous generations had more wealth-per-capita; at least in the “middle class”. So they could afford more loyalty.

      As a community organization & transit advocate I hear that side of the story all the time. But most established institutions – especially Evangelical ones – seem stone-cold-deaf to these issues: those people did not experience the world that way, so they do not even consider the economic issue. It is more expensive to establish yourself now, and wages are a flat line.

      So – what can institutions do to lower the **actual $$$ cost** of being “loyal”?

  • April 4, 2017

    Katherina Stegerman

    What’s so sad to me about this is that there are genuine people trying to love and make an impact on the world, the problem is that they are not getting the attention of the media – Christian or otherwise. The Kingdom of Heaven is so upside down that what the world, even the Christian world, deems worthy of attention is completely opposite what Jesus calls us to, and should this not be the way it is? I try to love and be love to those around me, I try (though I am not perfect) to do this without the desire to be part of a mainstream anything, Christianity or otherwise. I strive to become like Christ, and I find a community around me that does the same. We won’t be getting rave reviews from anyone any time soon. I think the work of Christ is often completely unnoticed until it is complete.

  • April 11, 2017

    M. K. Edward

    Recently I returned from a trip to India to meet with our ministry partners there. While ministering in a house church with 80-100 people sitting on a floor in an upstairs duplex, the pastor was called to the police station for illegally distributing bibles. That Sunday I was a guest speaker at a church of 500 newer converts that meet in fields and moves to stay ahead of the police. I met pastors whose business accounts had been frozen and who had been persecuted by the governing nationalist party. I say all that to say that I do not feel bad for the disillusioned. The church is not an illusion of perfection, it has always been a divine institution with human administrators. Get over yourselves. You are blessed. You sound like a country song about crying in your beer. Stop blaming mega churches, or prosperity preachers, non-committing millennials, religious baby boomers or politicians. “Rejoice in the Lord and again I say rejoice”. Every day is a gift and an opportunity to minster the love of Christ to a broken world. Don’t bring a newspaper to the pulpit, bring the bible to the paper. For God sakes, this is the best time to be a believer. Everywhere we look there is brokenness and we know He who redeems all. We shouldn’t weep for what our church or nation is not, we should get busy bringing heaven to earth. Take heart and don’t let your heart fail you now.